So I haven't wrote anything in a while, but I felt compelled to write a little blog about dating and all these made up rules, worrying about saying the wrong thing, ideas we get in our heads, and the problem with online dating. Well I'll just rant for a bit and see how much of this blog I can write.
Now the first thing I want to rant about are the "RULES" of dating and other things that go along with it. I'm a bit old fashion, so it is hard for me to follow the dos and don'ts of dating. Some are obvious, but some I question.I want to meet the people that started these rules in there heads and the people that follow them and punch them in the jeans:
1. The 3 day rule
WTF!?! are you kidding me? I understand people get busy, but to act busy is so stupid. If they were interested they'd pick up. You are not desperate and if you think if they think you are, then they aren't the person for you. If you dig someone and you have some time call them up whenever YOU feel like it. Let them know, "Hey I really had fun and really would like to do it again" I've been struggling with this one for years. I'm like who gives a shit just call. Ladies and gentlemen please just get it out of your mind and let's end this 3 day rule.
2. Mixed signals (games)
Just tell someone directly if you're not interested in seeing them again. Lying and stringing people along simply because you're too scared to tell them the truth is selfish and hurtful. If you don't want to go on another date with someone, let them down as gently -- but firmly -- as possible.
3. Expectations
Don't think about the date too much just go with the flow....start at a Starbucks if you need to and go with the flow, see where it ends up you might be surprised. I've heard women say, "if he wants a shot with me..." and they make a ridiculous list of expectations. Don't expect too much on the first date just expect getting to know the person and all the other stuff is nice but really it's about the chemistry between each other. The fancy dinners and etc will come, but after those happen...now what? Is that all that person has to offer you...their bank account? LAME!
so yeah that's it. Maybe people can give me some other ones to rant about haha
Now online dating probably makes up a lot of my dating, but that is the most reliable source for me as of now being I work 40 hours and go to school and the fact that most girls (not all) at clubs are pathetic. I believe Sex and the City can be responsible for that. Probably my one thing is trying to tell the person what your all about online kills the time you finally meet the person. You have nothing to do or say to them because you put all your cards out on the table and what there is to know about the person. Plan an event have a couple drinks and see what happens. I recently learned exposing too much and finally meeting will leave you with nothing to talk about and again the "now what?" factor comes along. Not that it's a bad thing. Give it time, but not to much to set up a meeting. However, there is the factor of meeting people from online because they are nervous which is understandable....it's online dating.
That's pretty much....How do you guys feel about this?
